(Ya: Accountability ko rebrand kaise karte hain as “Boundaries”)

SABSE pehle ek baat clear kar dete hain. Main toxic nahi hoon. Main evolved hoon. Difference samjho.

Tum log drama karte ho. Main patterns identify karti hoon.

Tum react karte ho (janwaro ki tarah). Main respond karti hoon (deviyon ki tarah).

Tum clingy ho. Main Boundary-Oriented hoon.

Harkat same hai. Bas vocabulary mehengi hai. Aur aaj kal power paison mein nahi, vocabulary mein hai, sweetie.

Phase 1: “I Just Value My Peace” (The Rebranding)

Jab main 3 din reply nahi karti, woh ghosting nahi hota. Woh "Nervous System Regulation" hota hai. Mujhe apni energy protect karni thi. Tumhara text meri vibe low kar raha tha.

Jab main tumhe suddenly block karti hoon, woh impulsive nahi hota. Woh "Energetic Cord Cutting" hota hai.

Tum rote hue bolte ho: "Yaar at least communicate kar leti." Main chai ki chuski lete hue bolti hoon: "I don’t owe anyone access to me."

Dekha? Tum “selfish” sunte ho. Main “sovereignty” bolti hoon. Hum same page pe hain hi nahi. Main alag kitaab padh rahi hoon.

Phase 2: Therapy As A Weapon (Brahmastra)

Main therapy gayi hoon. Ek baar. (Trial session tha.) Par maine Instagram pe 47 Reels dekh liye hain "Narcissism" ke upar. Ab mujhe sab pata hai. Ab main certified hoon.

Tumne mujhe bola: "Can we talk? I am hurt." Main boli: "I am not available for emotionally unsafe conversations right now." (Translation: Abhi mera mood nahi hai, bhaad mein jao.)

Tumne bola: "Par maine kya kiya?" Main boli: "That’s exactly the problem. Tumhara lack of awareness mujhe trigger kar raha hai."

Mujhe specifics pasand nahi hain. Vibes kaafi hain. Agar mujhe laga tumne mujhe trigger kiya hai, toh tumne kiya hai. Proof? Mera nervous system. Aur nervous system kabhi jhooth nahi bolta. (Except jab main bhookhi hoon ya overthink kar rahi hoon, par woh main accept nahi karungi.)

Phase 3: The Pre-Emptive Strike (Hamla)

Main ladayi shuru nahi karti. Chhi, that's low vibration. Main clarity initiate karti hoon.

Tum casually bolte ho: "Kal milte hain?" Mera dimaag sunta hai: "Main tumhe control karna chahta hoon aur tumhara time maang raha hoon."

Aur phir main bolti hoon: "I just feel like you don’t show up for me in the way I need."

Tum hairaan. Tum confused. Tum calendar dekh rahe ho. Par main? Main already emotionally withdraw kar chuki hoon. Main kabhi openly possessive nahi hoti. Main sirf yeh bolti hoon: "I don’t compete. I observe."

Matlab: Main tumhari following list stalk karti hoon. Chup-chaap. Bina Spreadsheet ke. Main detective hoon, bas bina badge ke.

Phase 4: The “I Told You Who I Am” Defence

Jab tum finally thak jaate ho (kyunki tum insaan ho) aur bolte ho: "Yaar tum impossible ho."

Main seedha tumhari aankhon mein dekh ke, bina palke jhapkaye bolti hoon: "I told you from Day One I’m intense."

Aur yeh sach bhi hai. Maine bola tha: "I need emotional depth." Maine yeh nahi bola tha: "Main tumhare har sentence ka psychological autopsy karungi aur usme trauma dhoondh lungi."

Tumne sign kiya tha Terms & Conditions pe. Bas tumne fine print nahi padha. Woh meri galti nahi hai. Buyer beware, baby.

Phase 5: The Soft Voice, Hard Exit

Main chillati nahi hoon. Main calm ho jaati hoon. Aur jab main calm ho jaati hoon na… tab samajh lena maut aa gayi hai.

Main "Therapist Voice" mein bolti hoon: "I think our values are misaligned."

Translation: Tum mujhe control nahi kar paa rahe. Aur mujhe control chhodna pasand nahi.

Main breakups ko "closure" nahi bolti. Main bolti hoon: "Conscious Uncoupling." Tum ro rahe hote ho. Main Pinterest pe "Healing Era / Hot Girl Summer" board bana rahi hoti hoon.

The Truth (Jo Main Kabhi Admit Nahi Karungi)

Kabhi kabhi… raat ko 3 baje, jab Reels ka data khatam ho jaata hai... mujhe pata hota hai ki main overreact kar rahi hoon.

Kabhi kabhi mujhe pata hota hai ki mujhe baith ke baat karni chahiye thi, block nahi karna chahiye tha. Kabhi kabhi mujhe pata hota hai ki main bhi aglat ho sakti hoon.

Par agar main yeh maan loon… Toh phir mera poora brand hil jaayega.

Main kaun hoon agar main "The Emotionally Intelligent One" nahi hoon? Main kaun hoon agar main har baar victim nahi hoon? Main kaun hoon agar main bas… insecure hoon?

Nahi. Impossible. Main insecure nahi hoon. Main aware hoon.

Aur agar tum mujhe toxic bol rahe ho… toh shayad tumhe uncomfortable ho raha hai kyunki main tumhe mirror dikha rahi hoon. (Wow, kya line hai. Isko note kar leti hoon future argument ke liye.)

Final Sach

Main toxic nahi hoon. Main bas self-aware hoon.

Aur agar tumhe lagta hai main difficult hoon… Toh shayad tum emotionally literate nahi ho. Good luck healing that. Block.

POV: Main Delusional Nahi, ‘Visionary’ Hoon | Pisces Edition